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Life is all about change. In a relationship, it is crucial to understand that people are always bound to change. So when partners are committed to having long-term relationship success, they need to dive deep into why communicating needs is important. It is normal and common to have changing wants and needs throughout life. As we grow older, we want to achieve different things. We need to be aware that if we’re in a relationship, it’s our responsibility to communicate these changes to our partners so they know where we're at and understand what's going on for us at the time. How to acknowledge your changing needs Your needs should be met - and not addressing these concerns will only lead to stress, anxiety, or resentment towards yourself or your partner. The best way to acknowledge your changing needs is to ask yourself what exactly you need from the relationship given what you're wanting from life right now. This may sound easy but some people find it difficult to discover what they truly need as this requires some inner work - time and attention. There are different types of needs that must be met while you’re in a relationship. Think about your physical needs, the need for connection, and the need to pursue your own interests. The best way to communicate your needs Once you figure out what your needs are, it’s time to talk with your partner and see how you can achieve them. Find the best time to do so since you don’t want to address these needs when your partner is stressed out or tired with work. During the communication stage, be wary of turning the conversation into an argument. This usually happens when couples don’t see eye to eye and look at the conversation as an opportunity to blame each other. One of the indicators that your talk is turning into a blame game is when you’ve noticed that the words “I” or “you” or the terms “you’re never” are constantly being mentioned. If you notice that the conversation is going downhill, stop and find another time to communicate your needs. Schedule the best time when you and your partner are well-rested and able to listen to what is being said in the discussion. Communicating your needs is one way to improve your relationship. It’s a way to figure out what will make you better function as an individual and how it generates a positive impact on your bond. Once you and your partner understand the importance of being able to mention your needs without judgment, you develop transparent communication. You don’t have doubts about whether your partner will understand your perspective or not. Conclusion To grow, evolve, and have varying needs is all part of our human nature. We were never meant to stay in one place or want the same things all throughout life. Having and being a partner who truly wants to listen to your changing needs and work through them is such a relationship advantage. Wanting to achieve and satisfy deeper needs is a sign that we’re moving to the next level of life. We’re thinking more of the future, stability, and the success of our long-term relationship. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success.
Conflicts are probably one of the common events that will occur in any type of partnership. You and your partner need to know how to manage conflict in a relationship and attract long-term relationship success. Although conflicts are inevitable, it doesn’t automatically mean that the relationship is in deep trouble. Couples who work on their conflicts actually help improve their relationships. They arrive at solutions that benefit each individual and the relationship. Tips to manage relationship conflict If you really want to have long-term relationship success, you and your partner must find ways to help manage conflicts. Here are top tips to handle relationship conflicts according to Psychology Today : 1. Don’t focus on the negatives Focusing on the negative aspects of your relationship only makes the conflicts worse. When this happens, you throw a barrage of all the negative things that your partner did and discredit all the good things they’ve done. Focus on what needs to be solved at the exact moment and learn to appreciate each other’s efforts in solving the conflict. 2. Look at conflicts from a different perspective To better manage conflicts, you have to understand where your partner is coming from and why they feel a certain way. Doing so lets you think of ways that can solve conflicts without taking each other’s feelings for granted. 3. Your best asset – listen Active listening helps lessen the conflicts, and it shows that you’re trying to understand how your partner feels. This prevents misunderstandings, and you’re showing your partners that you’re paying attention to what they’re saying and how they’re feeling. 4. Stop beating around the bush It can be difficult to express how you really feel because you don’t want to offend your partner. However, being direct with what’s bothering you actually helps the other person to understand what needs to be done. Couples who continuously avoid discussing problems may find themselves in irreversible consequences. It’s best to address conflicts as they happen or find the best time to do so. When managing conflicts, make sure that you’re direct with the issue and don’t let it take different twists and turns that may confuse you and your partner. 5. Learn to take a break If you find your relationship having too many conflicts, and it feels overwhelming, maybe it’s time to take a break. Take a few deep breaths to calm yourself and don’t be pressured into talking about the conflict immediately. Mirah’s challenge for you today Allow yourself to go through emotions when you think about something that annoys you. Name these emotions and develop the courage to speak up. You must learn to calmly express how you feel about a particular situation that’s been aggravating you so the other person is aware of how you feel. Conclusion When it comes to dealing with conflict, face it with calmness and always remember your goal as a couple – to have long-term relationship success. Be direct about how you feel and make sure that you and your partner are putting in equal effort to solve the conflict. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
We’re so used to planning so much for the future. We want to make sure we can handle every single obstacle that comes our way. Even for our personal connections, we always want to know the next steps for long-term relationship success. Here at Connect Enrich , we take a different approach. We believe that the next step will only reveal itself after we finish the current step. Why it’s important to not know the next step Although we live in a world that values the next step so much, it shouldn’t always be the case, especially in relationships. Here are some of the reasons why it’s important to not know the next step. 1. It stops you overthinking Being in a relationship or looking for a relationship has its own set of challenges that sometimes encourage you to overthink things. It takes away your freedom to fully enjoy what you have because you’re always thinking about what should happen next. Not knowing the next steps allows you to enjoy your current relationship stage without too much pressure. You also get to know yourself and/or your partner on a much deeper level while you’re working out a certain phase of the relationship. 2. You learn to let go of frustrations We tend to be self-critical all the time, and we become frustrated when we haven’t reached the next step yet. We’re pressured that for magnetising or optimising a relationship to be successful, we must continuously move towards the next step. By acknowledging that there’s no urgent need to hit the next step, we realise the value of taking it slowly and appreciating ourselves and life better. The pressure is lifted and instead of focusing on the negatives, we value everything that we’ve accomplished so far, and our relationship with the Universe. 3. We learn to trust the process Not everything in life goes through a linear process, it’s filled with bumps, stops, and detours. Your relationship will never evolve if you expect it to take a linear path. You and your partner will go through lots of changes, and you’ll have to figure out the next step together. Your next step will always be different from other couples and from other singles who are looking for a long-term relationship, so you need to learn to trust the process. What is your step now? Understanding your current step leads to your next step, get into it and when it’s finished you’ll discover your next step. To magnetise long-term relationship success, you have to recognise the current step you’re taking. Mirah invites you to write down your current step and see how it impacts your relationship goals. After doing this step, proceed to the next step. Conclusion You don’t have to have everything figured out. Sometimes, there is beauty in surprises. Your next step will likely only reveal itself when you’ve finished with the current step. Allow your relationship stage to evolve, so you get a better understanding of where you truly are at with magnetising your love relationship. Don’t let the over-planning norm of the world get into you. Give yourself the freedom to take each step one at a time and enjoy every aspect of it. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
Have you ever wanted to know a secret tool to making your long-term relationship successful? Not everyone may know this, but it’s understanding the importance of a daily check-in. This process allows you to fully understand what you want, why you want it, and how it makes you feel. Why is a daily check-in important? Although it’s not obvious, we usually forget our goals overnight. In that span of time, we forget what we’re striving for each day. This part of us easily gets lost as we sleep, and it needs reigniting so we stay on track. A daily check-in catalyses your goals for long-term love. This habit allows for a presence, a healthy connection and tuning in with yourself and what’s happening around you. In our busy world, we tend to get so occupied with what we need to do that we forget to tune into how we’re feeling. Making it a habit to check in with yourself is a great way to assess where you are emotionally and mentally. This regular catch-up with yourself is invaluable in your relationships as people feel that you are more present with them because you are more present with yourself. How to check in with yourself If you’re curious about what’s the best way to do a check-in, here are some pointers: ● Find stillness in your mind Avoid the noise since this will only cause confusion and make you feel uncomfortable. When you are checking in you need to make sure that your mind and the area you’re in are quiet. It’s normal to feel awkward if this is your first time doing a check-in, and you may have the urge to go back to your busy life, but have faith, it will be easier as you practise each day. Once you find stillness, it becomes easier to connect with your intentions, wants, and needs. ● Find the opportunity to ask Once you find the stillness in your mind, you need to ask yourself what you need at that exact moment and how you are. Although a daily check-in is not a rigid process and you can ask yourself anything you want, it is helpful to have a way of starting it each day so that you more quickly turn your energy inwards. After asking questions, listen to your responses wholeheartedly. Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings and write these down. Mirah’s challenge for you today is: Take a minute and check in with yourself. Evaluate how you feel right now, what you want or need, why you want it, and how it makes you feel when you envisage having it. You can do this every morning if you so choose. Conclusion Doing a daily check-in is supportive as you go through your life’s journey. Through this, you’re making sure that your needs are heard and met so that when you engage in a relationship, you have more chance of showing up with presence. This skill of being present creates a much greater chance of long-term relationship success. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
Doing our best to achieve long-term relationship success is not an easy path. It requires us to clarify our intentions and what we want in the relationship. Have you ever considered why intention is important in a relationship? By being clear with our intentions, we understand the reason we are in a particular relationship. We know the value it brings and how to ensure its success. Why do we need to be intentional in relationships? Whether our intention is personal, private, or not, it fills our cells and energy fields. It affects our gestures – how we walk and even how we talk. Also, by being intentional, it attracts and continuously attracts long-term relationship success. Our intentions affect our conscious efforts. We want to do our best to ensure that our partners also want to be in the relationship. Rather than focusing too much on our personal needs and what will make us happy, we can also have an intention that our partner feels valued and appreciated. Furthermore, setting clear intentions encourages transparency and accountability from individuals. We learn to communicate our own needs and wants and we understand that being accountable for the wrong things we’ve done is helpful in maintaining a healthy relationship. How to best communicate your intentions When it comes to setting your intentions in a relationship, you have to be aware of Why Do You Want a Relationship? This creates a powerful desire to connect and become intentional with our relationship, and we work hard on making sure it lasts. One of the best ways to communicate your intentions is to show your authentic self during the early stages of the relationship. We tend to put our best foot forwards, especially in the dating stage then we change our behaviour because we’re not always being true to who we are when we're dating. By expressing our authentic selves, we communicate our intentions early on and our partners create a real connection with us. Another way to express your intention is having the assurance that you and your partner can still exhibit your individualities in side the relationship. Some people assume that being in a relationship means they have to water down their character but a successful long-term relationship allows room for personal interests as well as character. You don’t have to rush into setting your intention as this may lead to feeling stressed out. Work on it slowly and then commit to it when you are ready. Moreover, to best communicate intentions, your relationship should allow for vulnerability. You can freely express who you are and engage in a deeper sense of comfort and confidence with your partner. Ponder your relationship intention Sit for a moment and think about your relationship intention. Feel into the fulfillment of the why. As you dive deeper into recognising your intentions, you also learn how to better navigate the relationship, your partner, and yourself. Conclusion Setting intentions in a relationship allows you and your partner to recognise and acknowledge the things that will bring you towards a successful long-term relationship. If you feel like the relationship is not moving towards your goals, you need to evaluate each other’s intentions. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
A secret relationship success weapon that most people don't know about is advocating for yourself. Oftentimes, when we’re in a relationship, we care so much about the other person that we forget about our own welfare. However, relationships should be a two-way street where the needs and wants of each partner can be expressed and acknowledged. When self-advocacy is established, it supports long-term relationship success. What is self-advocacy? According to SelfAdvocateNet , “self-advocacy is our capacity to speak up for ourselves and the things we consider as significant.” It also means that you can express your thoughts and feelings without hesitation. Additionally, being an advocate for yourself is about making the right decisions regarding things that have an impact on your life. It doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to get help when troubles arise, but it signifies that you’re 100% responsible for the life choices you make. How to advocate for yourself If you’re in a relationship and yet you feel like your needs and wants are not met, you need to consider whether you’re advocating for yourself enough. One of the common signs that you need to advocate for yourself more is when people aren't respecting your boundaries and don’t care about how you feel. Here are ways to advocate for yourself more: ● Figure out what you really want In order for you to become your own self-advocate, you have to be clear on what you really want and need. Figure out what you need to do to get this and how it makes you feel upon achieving it. This requires introspection and exploring the things that are making you feel happy and secure. ● Develop self-confidence Believing that your thoughts and emotions are valid is a good way to develop self-advocacy. It’s not just your partner’s needs that matter but your needs should also be acknowledged. Identify areas in your relationships that affect your confidence and work on them. Try not to engage in negative, self-destructive thoughts too much as this also impacts the way you engage in the relationship. ● Be assertive Let your partner know your needs and wants. Don’t let your partner decide everything and make sure you have honest and open communication regarding your relationship needs. Challenge to become a self-advocate Take note of the things that you want to pursue - what you really want in life. Think about how you can achieve them and the impact this will have on your relationship. Doing so allows you to acknowledge your emotions, hear yourself and become your authentic self. Once you know who you really are, you become your own personal advocate who brings your whole self to the relationship. This attracts and maintains long-term relationship success. Conclusion Self-advocacy is a skill that you need to develop whether you are in a relationship yet or not. This will help you feel empowered that you’re capable of making the right decisions in a relationship, supporting long-term relationship success. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
Have you ever wondered what prevents long-term relationship success right from the start? There are internal barriers or emotional beliefs that are no longer serving us. We may refer to this as 'bedrock' and we may have had this since childhood. It may be challenging to eliminate, but it’s possible. Once you’ve started addressing these internal barriers, you’ll find it easier to attract long-term love matches or relationship success. How internal barriers affect relationships We may consciously or unconsciously put up internal barriers and this impacts our relationships. You may not be aware of it but these emotional blockages prevent us from being 100% engaged with our partners. When we’re too focused on our internal barriers, we fail to become vulnerable, trusting, and honest. This can play out in various ways. For example: Not being vulnerable means that we may follow strict guidelines in our relationships, and not make room for minor mistakes, thereby not having the opportunity to notice what needs to be improved; If we lack trust in our partners, we may not be supportive of their individual achievements; or We might lose our personal identities because we’re too dependent on the other person. Moreover, people in relationships that are not founded on trust and honesty will find it difficult to handle even the smallest of conflicts. These emotional barriers can hurt not just our relationships but also ourselves. We don’t give ourselves the opportunity to enjoy what our relationship can truly offer because we’re too busy thinking about the negatives. It also prevents us from making meaningful connections with other people. What to do with these emotional barriers? The first step to eliminating these internal barriers is to have self-awareness. Be mindful of your emotional blockages and see how they affect your relationships. Taking ownership of these barriers, you learn the steps needed to prevent them from driving your actions and responses. You can practise self-reflection or mindfulness when you feel that these emotional barriers are trying to take over. As you go through the process, you will build self-confidence and become more trusting toward your partner. Another way to work towards eliminating these emotional blockages is to communicate with your partner. You can ask for their help in making sure these internal barriers don’t affect your relationship. Not only will you learn to be more honest and open, but you’re also developing a healthy relationship habit. If you really want to achieve long-term relationship success, you’ll be committed to making it work in the first place. By working on breaking down these emotional barriers, you express your desire to have a lasting relationship. Mirah invites you to begin addressing internal barriers by: Considering how you feel about addressing these long-term relationship barriers - if you could rate this feeling, what’s the rating that you would give it? (10 being joyous while 1 is you feel horrendous.) Then, write down one long-term internal barrier in relationships for you; and Reassess how you feel right now in general - now that you've named one of these barriers that impact your relationships. (For instance, you may feel stressed or anxious because this is a new muscle you are building, or you may feel a more empowered feeling about your life as a whole because you are addressing this, or both.) Dealing with your internal barriers is not easy - it takes a great amount of effort and time to eradicate emotional barriers that you’ve had for so long. But the good news is it’s entirely possible, you just have to do the inner work. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
If it’s too much work and effort then why bother with a relationship? Despite the hard work relationships require, there are a lot of benefits we can attain from them. Humans crave social interaction, and being in a relationship helps strengthen emotional wellbeing. As long as we’re with the right person, relationships can help us become the best version of ourselves and create a positive impact on the world and others. The Benefits of Being in a Relationship Life is more than what we see and relationships are not just about the connection between two people. It’s also about the impact we bring, the learnings we share, and how they influence our perception of the world. Here are some of the known benefits of being in a relationship according to WebMD . ● You have someone to rely on Relationships can serve as a great support system. You have an extra pair of hands to help you in various circumstances. Moreover, asking for help isn’t going to be a struggle since your partner will gladly help you with anything. Couples can also provide a listening ear or pieces of advice to each other if they feel distressed. Furthermore, before they make a life-changing decision, couples can consult their partners first and see how it will work for their relationship. ● Helps see yourself in a positive manner When you spend time with people who make you feel good, helps you see yourself in a positive light. Also, when you get the love that you deserve, you feel valued and become the best version of yourself. ● Lowers stress levels When we’re in a healthy relationship, we generally feel good, and it impacts our well-being. Your partner can also help you manage your stress levels and become more physically active to combat stress. ● Commitment to becoming healthy Having a partner means having someone who will encourage and inspire you to become healthy. They can join you in workouts, exercises, or eating healthily. They’ll serve as your workout buddy or reminder that you need to be more attentive to your physical and mental health. ● An opportunity to enjoy life Your partner may help you see life from a different and better perspective. They can motivate you to try new things that let you discover more about yourself. Since you’re not alone in trying new activities, they become more fun. For us to fully recognise the benefits of being in a relationship, Mirah encourages writing down what we have gained from our connections with others. Take note of how your life has changed by knowing specific people. Also, if you have an annoying relationship that you want to improve, check out The Relationship Breakthrough Quiz , here . Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
Being frustrated when your partner doesn’t take responsibility for their part or behaviour is completely understandable. In every intimate relationship, we expect our partners to be accountable for themselves, and by being responsible for ourselves, we show that we’re mature enough to be in a relationship. So what is relationship maturity and how does it influence long-term relationship success? A Mature Approach to Relationship Responsibility The mature approach to relationship responsibility is being 100% accountable for your part in the relationship. There should also be a clear distinction between being 100% responsible and over-functioning. Being completely responsible means that a person looks after everything within his/her control, while over-functioning is doing everything to the point that it may disempower the other partner. In doing so, they may undermine another person’s self-worth and this can be unintentional. “Overfunctioning can be a productive method to manage anxiety and tension, but it can prevent both you and the other person from becoming a responsible human.” This is according to Psychology Today , and they’ve also listed the common behaviours of an overfunctioner : ● Doing tasks/ volunteering for activities that your partner may have a difficult time doing ● Making decisions on behalf of your partner ● Telling them what to do ● Convincing your partner that your belief/thinking is right ● Preventing a partner from participating in activities that may result in failure We may not realise it, but an overfunctioner could be tolerating their partner’s indifference or lazy behaviours. Alternatively, they could be not even giving their partner a chance to make decisions or take actions in their own time - when they are ready. Although overfunctioners manage their stress by doing this, they also prevent their partners from becoming their best version of themselves. Here are ways that can help people deal with over-functioning: ● Sit with the discomfort and wait for your partner to act or decide ● Observe how your behaviour influences your partner’s responses ● Determine opportunities that can support your partner to shine and become responsible for himself/herself How Relationship Maturity Influences Relationship Success Maturity affects the success and failure of long-term relationships. When both individuals are mature, they establish a healthy relationship where communication is vital. They are aware of their own responsibilities and do not tolerate poor treatment or behaviour. In the article “ Emotional Maturity in Relationships ”, people who are emotionally mature have the following characteristics: ● They take full responsibility for their reactions, feelings, and lives ● They practise empathy for themselves and others simultaneously ● They’re capable of speaking the truth no matter how hard it can be Relationship maturity allows a person to see beyond his/her beliefs and to acknowledge their partner’s thoughts and emotions. They also develop the courage to become fully responsible for their actions and their part in the relationship. And this inspires them to work hard so that their relationship will become and remain successful. Schedule a Relationship Breakthrough Session with Mirah. During the session, she helps unravel where you're at, what’s holding you back, and what’s your next step. To find out more about this, send Mirah a DM or go to her website here . Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .
We tend to overlook the warning signs in a relationship. Just because we’re romantically involved with someone, we think that they want what’s best for us. We may not know that we’re already trapped in some form of abuse cycle. No matter how good you think your bond is, it’s important to recognise when to get help in a relationship setting. The Key Signs That Someone Needs Help in a Relationship Staying in an unhealthy relationship has damaging effects on your well-being. But the thing is that some people don’t even realise that they’re in a toxic relationship. They think that the person they’re romantically involved with will never be capable of hurting them in any way. It’s true that no relationship is perfect but this shouldn’t mean that there should be tolerance for poor treatment. According to an article published by Verywell Mind , some of the key signs that someone needs help in a relationship are the following: ● Abuse There are different types of abuse but the most common ones in a relationship are physical, emotional, psychological, verbal, and financial abuse. Most people will overlook abuse no matter how obvious it is. If you’re experiencing abuse, the best thing to do is seek help from professionals, family, or friends. ● Controlling behaviour Controlling someone to act a certain way can also be tagged as manipulation. This may lead one to isolate or cut off the communication of another person from friends and families. ● Disrespect When the other person disrespects his/her partner, they dismiss or invalidate their feelings and thoughts. Some may even make fun of their partners which leads to embarrassment, guilt, or anxiety. The Kinds of Help You Can Get Realising that you’re in an unhealthy relationship is not easy but what’s more difficult is admitting the fact that you need help. There are different kinds of help you can get, but it will start with you. It’s important to recognise that you are still loved despite going through an abusive relationship. If you decide to leave a bad relationship, here are ways that can help you move forward as per the informative article issued by Healthline Media . ● Seek emotional support from family Family and friends may provide you with support. They care about you and may have an idea of what’s happening in your relationship. Also, since you are close with them, they won’t be overcritical of your situation and will understand your needs. ● Support from professionals Sometimes the abusive relationship greatly impacts your persona and how you function. Emotional support from friends and family may not be enough. You may need help from therapists so they can map out a plan to get you out of the negative state. ● Ask help from friends who’ve been through the same A conversation with a friend who’s been through the same scenario can help you see that there’s a more hopeful time ahead. They can give you tips or even help you with the journey of moving forward. A Challenge To Improve Yourself Being in an abusive relationship is not easy, but you need to determine what you can do to get out of it. You need to be assertive in empowering yourself so that you feel more confident. When you feel empowered, you don’t tolerate wrongdoings. This is a challenge to become more aware of your internal monitor. Look for areas in your life where you need to be more assertive and stronger. Doing so lets you set boundaries and show others how you want to be treated. Watch the video here . If you want to learn more about relationships, join the Facebook group Long-Term Relationship Success .